Welcome to “A Slut’s Guide to Happiness” where your body is perfectly imperfect and it’s safe to be as slutty, kinky or queer as you want.
Life presents enough challenges, from inevitable death and illness to man-made strife like poverty, inequality, and war. In the face of human suffering, sexuality is an incredible outlet for joy, healing, pleasure and connection.
Yet, social norms make accessing this simple joy harder than it needs to be. In this podcast, we unpack junk narratives about which bodies, identities, relationship styles, or sexual activities are considered acceptable and reclaim the power of sexual freedom.
Recent decades have brought meaningful progress in some areas of gender and sexuality, like greater acceptance of LGBTQ people in the institution of marriage and the workplace, and access to contraception that allows women more sexual freedom. Nonetheless, dominant cultural norms still perpetuate narrow ideas about who is desirable or worthy of love and what sexual practices are appropriate. Often, these subtle, pernicious ideas operate quietly beneath the surface and show up in our hearts as shame, isolation or fear.
How do we break free? How do we learn to be and love our whole authentic selves, to find the joy and pleasure in authenticity? How do we release the fear that who we are, how we love or what we desire is a problem?
What do happiness and connection look like for people who don’t conform to idealized standards? How do we claim the power of sexual freedom for people who have a differently sized body, differently functioning brain, or different levels of mobility; people who work in the sex industry; or people who are slutty, kinky, old, Black or brown, transgender, or polyamorous?
Cliff Media is a porn production company that invites people of all walks of life to share in the exciting, scary experiment of co-creating sex-positive spaces beyond fear and shame. We encourage all good-hearted people to participate, as long as they provide STI results, sign release forms, and show up with kindness, humility and a desire to grow. Together, we produce scenes that explore themes of loving community, healthy non-monogamy, joyful kink, and empowered female and queer sexuality.
Porn is often derided as gratuitous indulgence in big boobs, hard dicks and offensive stereotypes. But if we set aside the way porn has been used by many mainstream companies and consider the medium itself, it’s actually an awesome opportunity. It’s perhaps the most widely viewed, intimate and uncensored medium, allowing creators to explore topics that go deep into our psyche, including:
-Shame and acceptance of our bodies and identities
-Diversity in romantic and sexual relationships
-Sexual health and ethics
-Sexual deviance, desire and kink
-Fear of rejection, judgment or loss
-Trauma and healing
-Joy, humor, kindness, and care, and
-The innate human longing for affection and belonging.
In this companion podcast, we dive deep into the topics that underlie our production work. Our host Vanessa Cliff, CEO of Cliff Media, talks with pornstars, participants in Cliff Media shoots, and other sex-positive community leaders.
Join us in the joy of being awkwardly human, naked and without pretense. Let’s get free.
Welcome to A Slut’s Guide to Happiness, where your body is perfectly imperfect and it’s safe to be as sexual, kinky, queer, or slutty as you were.
I’m your host, Vanessa Cliff. I am the CEO of Cliff media, a community-driven female and queer-led porn production company. We build community and create videos that explore consent, joy, and sexual freedom.
Instead of recruiting professional actors, Cliff Media organizes group shoots that are open to all enthusiastically consenting adults. Our scenes explore themes of healthy non-monogamy, joyful, kink, loving community, and empowered female and queer sexuality.
I’m also a mom. I have a PhD in Social Sciences. I’ve worked for many different community organizations, and I’ve been in jobs that have made a hell of a lot more money than this scrappy startup company.
So why would I take the financial and social risk to do something so far on the fringe of society? For one, because it’s fun. But moreover, because I really believe that what we’re doing, this community we’re building, and the vision of freedom and love, is tapping into something powerful, a big idea, something a lot of us need, something healing.
Let’s take a step back. Being human is hard. We have to grapple with big things like war, poverty and incarceration, daily economic struggle, interpersonal trauma, even the unavoidable facts of illness, death and loss. In the face of this human suffering, any joy we can find, any way to make this life a little easier, softer, happier, that’s a good thing.
For many people, sexual freedom can be an incredible source of joy. It can bring connection, play, release, happiness.
What do I mean by sexual freedom?
I mean having sex with whoever the fuck you want, however you want, as long as everyone involved is informed and consenting.
I mean loving people freely in any kind of relationships you want.
Loving yourself and your body exactly as it is.
Making money and surviving capitalism with your sexuality and body if you want.
Being confident and open about who you are and who you fucking love.
The problem is, junk narratives in our society get in the way of accessing this easy joy. We internalize shame, a lot of shame, which is one of the most corrosive things our hearts can experience. Because of shame, fear and loneliness take the place of easy pleasure.
In this podcast, we’ll explore a question that is as important as it is silly and fun. How do we let go of the junk and reclaim the basic joy of sexual freedom?
We’ll unpack the stories that keep us scared and alone. We’ll talk with some really smart, fun people about their experiences being slutty, kinky, polyamorous, transgender, pansexual, and queer, and about their experiences doing sex work and performing in porn.
And we’ll imagine a future where everyone, no matter what you look like or how your body works, can be healthy, safe, free, and loved.
I’m your cheerleader as you come out to play in the sun or in the darkness of the dungeon. Whatever makes your heart dance. You can check out A Slut’s Guide to Happiness wherever you get your podcasts, including Apple and Spotify, as well as on cliffmediaproductions.com
I invite you to join us in the pleasure of being awkwardly human, naked and without pretense.
Let’s get free.
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